Enough. Enough Now.
A confession: Love Actually is one of my favourite movies of all time. I think I have watched it a million times.
There is a scene towards the end of the movie where Mark (Andrew Lincoln) shows up at the doorstep of his best friend’s house to profess his undying love for his friend’s wife Juliet (Kiera Knightley). Mark walks away with a deep knowing that his unrequited love is never meant to be. “Enough. Enough now” he whispers to himself.
Brianna Wiest says that “enough is not a point you reach but a feeling in your heart.” While talking about being enough, I think her point also applies to when we have had enough.
As someone that has long barrelled through my feelings, ignored all the signs that my body was screaming at me, I am slowly getting better at hearing that quiet whisper of enough. Learning how to ‘embody my feelings’ - to really let myself feel them in my body - has not been easy. It has taken a lot of work. It is often jarring in the moment. A rush of adrenaline coursing through my body. A severe pang in the core of my chest. A lump in my throat that makes it hard to swallow. An instant and intense bout of anger.
Instead of burying these feelings like I have, well, forever, I have been learning to nurture them. Letting them grow louder and louder. Sound crazy? Well, these feelings are actually my cues that an someone’s actions or that the environment I am in just isn’t working for me. Giving them a voice allows me to approach them with compassionate curiosity. I can try to ask myself what lies underneath these feelings. Overwhelm? Disappointment? Rage? Insecurity? Shame? The answer is almost always the same: FEAR.
I had an experience recently where I could feel the rage take over. I could hear the whispers of enough. In the moment, I sat with my feelings and I figured out why they were there. I created as much distance as I could between myself and the situation. I would like to say that I was able to let go, and go on with my night, but no. Why? Because I am human. I am still learning. Thankfully I have an incredible husband and some amazing friends - one in particular who may know who she is in this story - who helped me get back on track and remember as the great Michelle Obama once said: “when they go low, we go high.”
I first learned these skills as a coaching client and then subsequently was trained in the methodology all through the Mind Rebel Academy. Interested in how you might be able to apply this in your own life? Reach out via email or book a discovery call to find out more!
